You need to learn – everyone understands this. But not everyone wants to learn. For example, you? Are you ready to take a refresher course in your specialty? And if you imagine that you will have to do this every day, for 5-7 hours, and the "exhaust" is not expected very soon, if it is expected at all? Same thing!
The child may also not want to study, and it will be very difficult to force him, especially if this reluctance is associated with objective problems. Especially for our readers, we have compiled a small selection of tips on how to talk to your child correctly to motivate him to learn.
Why doesn't he want to study?
Why don't children want to study? The reasons can be quite diverse.
- Conflict at school
Sometimes the reluctance to learn is due to the fact that the child has problems with the environment at school. It can be a cocky neighbor at the desk or a class authority. Sometimes children conspire and boycott someone, and that someone may be closer than you think.
Another frequent line of conflict separating students and teachers.
Your job is to find out what the problem is and help solve it.
- Poorly explained the material
Some are lucky – they get teachers from God: bright, talented, loving their subject. Learning from such people is a real pleasure, the material is learned very easily. Others have to endure, cram by heart, study with a tutor or parents at home, wait until the teacher leaves school, or change schools themselves.
- They want too much
If a child has a bad grade, skips and cries more and more often that he does not want to go to school, it is possible that this is to blame ... yourself. Think about it: are four clubs and a music room really necessary? Is it good when the only free time your child has is half an hour behind a locked toilet door and another hour on public transport on the way from school to music or hockey?
When there is no free time at all, the body mobilizes, but then burnout and indifference inevitably set in.
- Trouble concentrating
In some children, the problem is psychological or neuropsychological in nature. In this case, you will not be able to do without the advice of a specialized specialist - you will not be able to deal with complexes or anxiety on your own, you can only make it worse.
- Excessive enthusiasm for gadgets
Mobile devices are the scourge of today's youth... That's what adults think. But a mobile phone or tablet can be both a useless time-eater and a portal to the world of knowledge and information, and it ultimately depends on the parents how the child will use it. Teach children a responsible attitude to information, help them master the methods of searching and verifying information! This is not only interesting and exciting, but also very useful - children can also teach you a lot.
Often, one reason for a decrease in cognitive motivation leads to another problem. So, a shy child cannot find friends among classmates, endures ridicule in the team. To cope with emotional stress, he immerses himself in the virtual world, looking for ways of self-realization in computer games and online communication. As a result, he completely loses interest in learning.
How to talk to a child about school difficulties?
Usually, children are not very willing to disclose information about school and lessons (this is especially often the case if they have already had a negative experience of frankness, when honesty was followed by punishment). In this case, the teacher can help. Ask him about how the child behaves in class, how active he is, what does he do - listens or secretly plays mobile games?
It is important to choose the moment and the right mood for a conversation. Do not shout or swear! Your strength is in unshakable confidence and the fact that you know 100%: without education, no one has a chance for the future. You wouldn't have it if you hadn't found the inner resource to force yourself to learn.
Often a child, especially a teenager, has counterarguments. Be very attentive to them – in an argument, children often reveal their secret motives. Try to find a counterargument for each such argument that is sufficiently convincing, strong and universal.
Sometimes it can be useful . Let's explain! Parents do not always serve children (especially teenagers) as authorities. Sometimes the opinion of another person - for example, a coach - can mean much more than the most weighty father's or mother's word. It doesn't matter why it happened and who is to blame, you will figure it out sometime later, now you need to ask this most authoritative person in the eyes of a teenager to talk to him and try to find the right words what sounded pathetic and unconvincing in your performance.
By the way! Teenagers like to cite as an example stories about figures who dropped out of school, but still achieved some fantastic success. They say that Einstein was a C student, and Gates did not go to university... That's true, but that didn't mean they were ignorant — they had enough knowledge to do relativity and create Windows, they just had difficulties with the system. You send a child to school not only so that he learns a bunch of theorems, but also so that he learns attentiveness, perseverance and stubbornness, learns to finish everything he started. Without these qualities and the necessary base, even Bill Gates would only be able to drink his parents' garage!
In fact, there are many more examples in history of those who studied well and achieved success than the opposite. Your task is not only to choose them correctly, but also to explain that it will not be possible to make computer games or build rockets without mathematics, physics and technology.
How to motivate to learn? Some tricks
There are a couple of simple tricks that make the task of parents much easier.
- Organize the workplace so that nothing distracts the child. This is logical: there is a place in the house where you eat, there are locations for recreation, and there is a workplace. A sofa for a TV is a bad location for homework. You won't be able to watch the cartoon in the background - so the plot will not be remembered well, and everything else will not work. It is also better to put the phone away to get rid of temptations.
- Many problems can be solved with time management skills, but only you, an experienced adult, can teach this. The first step is to help make a to-do list for the day and week!
