Every third student loves to go to school, because friends and buddies are waiting for him there, with whom he can discuss the latest news and have fun during breaks! However, not everyone likes to study at school, the level of motivation of schoolchildren periodically falls. Often the reason lies not only in teachers or difficult lessons, but also in parents who have a negative impact on the child with their questions and actions. We will analyze the common mistakes of parents and tell you how to avoid them.
Constant monitoring
If you constantly remind your child that it's time for him to study, and reproach him for idleness, although he has just returned from school, then you should reconsider your behavior. Children also need rest: just as adults need time to get into work after vacation, students need to get used to be up early and doing homework after the holidays.
Let the child go for a walk, meet friends and do what he likes - he should have hobbies in addition to studying.
Worrying about the future
Since almost all parents have graduated from school and know the value of education, they try to instill it in their children. But often this turns into anxiety that if the child gets a F or fails the exam, then he is threatened with an unsuccessful career. However, for children, the future is vague, many cannot clearly imagine what they want to become, but in reality they see parents who reproach them for failures in school. Parents should worry less about the child's grades and believe more in his strength.
Lack of support
When a child comes home from school and complains that he was given a lot of lessons or that he had several tests, some parents devalue his experiences, saying that everything was more difficult in their school years: there was no Internet, buses did not run, and household chores were not canceled.
Every child needs support! So instead of ignoring his difficulties, ask if the test was difficult and how you can help.
Learning through coercion
"I don't want a word, I just need to eat" – if you say this phrase to a child, you should bite your tongue. It is difficult for any person to do something without desire, because you need motivation to work. You should not let everything take its course, but it is also wrong to force a child to sit for hours at lessons. It is better to listen to him and try to help. Maybe he doesn't like to go to math classes because the teacher is strict and often gives fails? Or perhaps he is having a hard time with physics? In each case, it is worth discussing possible solutions with him.
