Educators annoy their "pets" for a variety of reasons. There is a big house, and untimely invitations to the board, and regular desires to see parents at school. But some manage to infuriate even colleagues in the teacher's office, because they are completely intolerable and unbearable. We bring to your attention a typology of the most annoying varieties of teachers.
These people will promise you to do everything – but they will not, because they immediately forget about the promised under the weight of many other promises and vows to do this and achieve something.
The best way to deal with such a person is to pin him to the wall and demand to answer clearly and to the point: will you do this and that, or not? We still have time to find another performer or work hard to prevent an uncomfortable situation. And at the end, it is better to praise such a person in order to consolidate positive associations with the work done, and not with simple excuses.
These people know everything better than anyone else, they love to give advice and, of course, it is their merit that everything is so good, glorious and wonderful for you on certain issues. Often such people exaggerate their successes and merits, but you should not deny them the right to a modicum of glory and greatness. Thank you for a really helpful tip or recommendation. And in order not to be arrogant - ask difficult questions in those areas where this person is not particularly versed.
Criticizes everything that comes to his hand. His task is to huddle in a cozy corner where nothing threatens, and then "attack" a person. This should be done in such a way that after that there is no need to do something.
Criticism is a pattern of behavior from which leading and clarifying questions are saved. The responsibility should be transferred to the critic - and then it will either merge, or the criticism will be useful for the project, no matter how you look at it.
The most difficult thing is to deal with personal attacks, parry them and translate them into a neutral channel.
Insecure people get in the way not only of colleagues, but also of themselves. It is difficult for them to overcome internal barriers, to leave the comfort zone. Discussions with them turn into endless torment, often looped.
However, all the introductory words that indicate a hypothetical interest in a particular topic can serve as a clue! It will be optimal to jointly study possible solutions and convince a person that he does not have to strive for the ideal, it is enough just to solve something.
It is also useful to praise such people: this serves as a measure of positive stimulation.
The Silent Ones
This variety is characterized by an absent reaction to events occurring nearby. These are usually good people, inclined to be on the sidelines. They can be talked about, and in this case, a person can be very useful for the team, and the interlocutor is interesting, which the devil does not joke. The strategy of transferring time to the future and preventive division of responsibility helps with them perfectly. Like, if something does not work out , think about what will be the share of your responsibility and guilt in this?
A person is usually calm, but sometimes he explodes and begins to yell at everyone in a row, pour swearing and generally behave in such a way that it will be unbearable to be nearby. Their anger can be warned or redirected if you take a timeout in time.
Such people know better than you how to teach and how to learn, are completely devoid of reflection inherent in smart people, and do not doubt their own genius. There are no alternatives to their only correct solution and approach. Before entering into a discussion, discussion or debate with such a person, you should work as carefully as possible with the wording, ask a question or offer an argument only in the case of one hundred percent confidence and conviction.
In knowledgeable people, it is best to recognize in advance the high expert and professional potential - only then you will be able to find a common language with such people and learn to use their really considerable potential for the benefit: your own, the team, society.
These people never get anything normal: children are cattle, parents are clueless and do not listen, curtains are not washed and the wrong color, and homework is not systematically performed. In the case of a denial strategy, everything will go to the second third or fourth round.
To neutralize such a person, he needs to ask a counter question of a clarifying property. Are parents really clueless? How long have the curtains been washed? How many people in the class didn't make homework?
Turns out, it's not that bad. And if it is bad, there are objective reasons for this. And no administration will help to cope with them. Themselves. All by ourselves.
They do nothing because there is no chance of success or it is minimal. The role in the team is destructive, subversive: to destroy the chances of success through merciless criticism.
There is no point in forcing a pessimist to see the world in other colors: it is useless. It is necessary to find a sound thought among drama and negativity and cling to it. In most cases, a person of this nature will begin to object to you simply out of a sense of contradiction – and your roles in the dialogue will change.
Teachers of this type are prone to harsh, sarcastic and spiteful comments both towards students and colleagues. Here you need to win a strong position and convince him that if you are not allies, then at least not enemies. And also that you are stronger and able to hold the blow. In the case of the teacher, this will make the enemy an ally or non-enemy, which is already a lot. But the disciples, as obviously lower elements in the "food chain", dare to object, will condemn themselves to hellish torments.